Tool #13 Grocery Store Divider of Discernment.
Imagine the following scenario: Your neighbour is taking out the garbage. You wave at your neighbour. He doesn’t wave back. Now because you’ve had a hard day, this doesn’t sit right. And in your imagination suddenly he becomes cold, rude, standoffish, or secretly...
TOOL #14: THE CARPOOL KARAOKE OF DISRUPTION
I pick James up from school and we ease into our usual after-school drift. Backpack and trumpet thump into the back seat, he gets in the passenger seat with that end-of-day heaviness, and I point the car toward the pool. I try the standard openers. “How was your...
Tool # 12: The Sandwich of Meeting Basic Needs (Don’t Hargue With Hangry)
Don’t hargue with hangry.
Tool #11: The Parka of Feeling Wisely
When we feel wisely, big emotions don’t make us their lunch.
Tool #10: The Pie Chart of Balanced Communication
Balanced communication makes room for what keeps us alive (“Buy groceries”) as well as all the things that make us human.