Conversation Killers #3: Tit-for-Tat
The technical name for tit-for-tat is “tu quoque” or “you also.” It’s the fallacy where we dodge accountability for our own behaviour by pointing out someone else’s. Does it work? Nope.
New RMFT Credential
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist May 5, 2026. Today I’m celebrating a meaningful milestone here at Pear Tree. Ten years, two offices, and many lessons later, I am now an RMFT rather than an MMFT (masters in marriage and family therapy). Day-to-day, nothing...
Tool #17: The Canal Lock of Emotional Regulation
Let’s embrace the fact that all of your happiest moments came eventually because you sailed onto the Lock of Emotional Regulation rather than daming yourself up on the Pond of Pain.
Tool #15: The Kindergarten of Curiosity
When my son started kindergarten, he was electric with excitement. He spotted a friend from daycare the moment he walked in, and the two of them lit each other up like only five-year-olds can. For his mom and me, it was a beautiful moment. We loved the idea of James...
Tool #13 Grocery Store Divider of Discernment.
Imagine the following scenario: Your neighbour is taking out the garbage. You wave at your neighbour. He doesn’t wave back. Now because you’ve had a hard day, this doesn’t sit right. And in your imagination suddenly he becomes cold, rude, standoffish, or secretly...