Conversation Killers #3: Tit-for-Tat
The technical name for tit-for-tat is “tu quoque” or “you also.” It’s the fallacy where we dodge accountability for our own behaviour by pointing out someone else’s. Does it work? Nope.
New RMFT Credential
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist May 5, 2026. Today I’m celebrating a meaningful milestone here at Pear Tree. Ten years, two offices, and many lessons later, I am now an RMFT rather than an MMFT (masters in marriage and family therapy). Day-to-day, nothing...
Tool #18: The Ice Cream Scoop of Character and Context
The Ice Cream Scoop of Character and Context doesn’t require us to excuse anyone’s behaviour or pretend we’re not annoyed. It just helps us portion out responsibility more accurately between person and situation.
Tool #17: The Canal Lock of Emotional Regulation
Let’s embrace the fact that all of your happiest moments came eventually because you sailed onto the Lock of Emotional Regulation rather than daming yourself up on the Pond of Pain.
Tool # 16: The Coffee Table of Dialogue
Some conversations make us a little brighter, a little more alive, a little more human.