Tool #13 Grocery Store Divider of Discernment.
Imagine the following scenario: Your neighbour is taking out the garbage. You wave at your neighbour. He doesn’t wave back. Now because you’ve had a hard day, this doesn’t sit right. And in your imagination suddenly he becomes cold, rude, standoffish, or secretly...
TOOL #14: THE CARPOOL KARAOKE OF DISRUPTION
I pick James up from school and we ease into our usual after-school drift. Backpack and trumpet thump into the back seat, he gets in the passenger seat with that end-of-day heaviness, and I point the car toward the pool. I try the standard openers. “How was your...
Tool # 12: The Sandwich of Meeting Basic Needs (Don’t Hargue With Hangry)
Don’t hargue with hangry.
Ten Year Anniversary!
October 16th, 2025 marked my ten year anniversary as a Marriage and Family Therapist! It’s surprising how much things change and how much they stay the same. I think (and hope) I’m ten years wiser. (The jury might still be out on that.) I do know for...
Conversation Killers #1: Un-Communication
Are you un-communicating? And, if so, what do you think about adding a little more warmth or curiosity to your interactions?