Conversation Killers #3: Tit-for-Tat
The technical name for tit-for-tat is “tu quoque” or “you also.” It’s the fallacy where we dodge accountability for our own behaviour by pointing out someone else’s. Does it work? Nope.
New RMFT Credential
Registered Marriage and Family Therapist May 5, 2026. Today I’m celebrating a meaningful milestone here at Pear Tree. Ten years, two offices, and many lessons later, I am now an RMFT rather than an MMFT (masters in marriage and family therapy). Day-to-day, nothing...
Tool #17: The Canal Lock of Emotional Regulation
Let’s embrace the fact that all of your happiest moments came eventually because you sailed onto the Lock of Emotional Regulation rather than daming yourself up on the Pond of Pain.
Tool #15: The Kindergarten of Curiosity
Kids who look at the world with enquiring minds are far more likely to thrive — especially in a world changing as fast as ours — so it matters that we, as parents, help them keep the spirit of kindergarten alive as they grow.
Tool #13 Grocery Store Divider of Discernment.
Imagine the following scenario: Your neighbour is taking out the garbage. You wave at your neighbour. He doesn’t wave back. Now because you’ve had a hard day, this doesn’t sit right. And in your imagination suddenly he becomes cold, rude, standoffish, or secretly...
TOOL #14: THE CARPOOL KARAOKE OF DISRUPTION
Most families don’t fall apart in dramatic arguments; they drift in the small, tired, everyday moments when everyone is doing their best but nobody has the energy to shift the pattern.