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Antifragility and Becoming a Wounded Healer
Humans are not fragile teacups. If you drop us, we might break, but we can heal, and become even smarter, wiser, and more loving because of the awareness and empathy that we gain from suffering. A teacup, on the other hand, does not grow from a challenge. If...
Is Your World Actually Less Safe Than It Was?
Do you lock your door at night? Do you lock your door if you head out to grab groceries? Do you lock your doors when you leave for work or school or jazzercize in the morning? I know I do. And why is that? Is it because I feel unsafe in my quiet suburban...
Let Your Values Go Viral, Part 2
This is the second in a series of blog posts about useful (and sometimes sneaky) ways to teach your kids awesome habits. That is, these are ways to make our Values go Viral. Values like Cooperation and Helpfulness can be natural parts of our children's...
Let Your Values Go Viral, Part 1
Raising empathic kids starts with being a values driven parent. It starts with being the "change you want to see in the world", as Ghandi put it. If you value compassion, hard work, and health, lead with those values. If you make those values happen in your life, you...
If You’ve Been Cheated On
No matter what problems were in your relationship, your partner’s affair is not a reflection on you.
If You’ve Been Unfaithful
You probably didn’t want to hurt your partner. At the core of your soul, this probably goes against everything you believe in. Now, sadly, there are some of you who “stepped-out” who did it to send a message to your lover or spouse. Some of you have been wounded and...
The Smartest Ninja Turtle: Creative, Active, and Artistic
Our little ninjas can be creative and active without being violent.
Mandated Therapy: Can you Turn “Have To” into “Want To”?
Most of my clients come to therapy because they want to heal, grow, and learn about themselves. They usually feel an overwhelming desire to mend their broken hearts and possibly heal their relationships with others. But over the years, I’ve also worked very closely...
Shifting the Golden Rule: Do Unto Others, Sort of
I like the “Golden Rule”: "Do unto others as you would have done unto you". And I do try to do unto others as I would have others to do for me. But, boy oh boy can it ever backfire if you’re too specific about it. In most cases, it seems to be better to think...