Thinking Wisely Blog

Eight Years of Lindsey’s Posts, including The Tools.

Theory of Mind Quiz

Take the quiz to see how you would respond to disappointed, hurt, or frustration when perceiving a disconnect with others.

Good Theory of Mind is something most of us can develop. Asking for and giving clear information is something we can all improve at. And when in doubt, read the room for what is not being said and when that’s unclear, simply ask.

Conversation Killers #3: Tit-for-Tat

The technical name for tit-for-tat is “tu quoque” or “you also.” It’s the fallacy where we dodge accountability for our own behaviour by pointing out someone else’s. Does it work? Nope.

New RMFT Credential

Registered Marriage and Family Therapist May 5, 2026. Today I’m celebrating a meaningful milestone here at Pear Tree. Ten years, two offices, and many lessons later, I am now an RMFT rather than an MMFT (masters in marriage and family therapy). Day-to-day, nothing…

Tool #18: The Ice Cream Scoop of Character and Context

The Ice Cream Scoop of Character and Context doesn’t require us to excuse anyone’s behaviour or pretend we’re not annoyed. It just helps us portion out responsibility more accurately between person and situation.

Tool #17: The Canal Lock of Emotional Regulation

Let’s embrace the fact that all of your happiest moments came eventually because you sailed onto the Lock of Emotional Regulation rather than daming yourself up on the Pond of Pain.

Tool # 16: The Coffee Table of Dialogue

Some conversations make us a little brighter, a little more alive, a little more human.

Tool #15: The Kindergarten of Curiosity

When my son started kindergarten, he was electric with excitement. He spotted a friend from daycare the moment he walked in, and the two of them lit each other up like only five-year-olds can. For his mom and me, it was a beautiful moment. We loved the idea of James…

Tool #13 Grocery Store Divider of Discernment.

Imagine the following scenario: Your neighbour is taking out the garbage. You wave at your neighbour. He doesn’t wave back. Now because you’ve had a hard day, this doesn’t sit right. And in your imagination suddenly he becomes cold, rude, standoffish, or secretly…