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The Sixth Love Language?
Attentive Self-Restraint allows us to hear the needs of our loved ones. It is the medium on which the message is shared. It is the ear that hears. It is the tree offering shade. Attentive Self-Restraint is the arms ready to hug as well as the shoulder ready to be cried on.
Children, The Internet, Addiction, And The Good Life
Love is the killer app - book title Kate T. Parker's pictures usually show girls doing what they love to do. They dance, wrestle against boys, play soccer, make music, build mud forts, and help their friends. She lovingly depicts ordinary-extraordinary girls who are...
Six Steps To Healthy Anger: Consume Your Anger So It Doesn’t Consume You
Sometimes we need to bottle up our anger, sometimes we need to sip, sometimes we need to share. This article outlines a process for how to use our anger in healthy ways.
Read more“Being in a loving relationship augments our caring and compassion for others, in our family and in our community” – Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, p. 259
Spouses: Love Your Marriage As You Love Yourself
"Being in a loving relationship augments our caring and compassion for others, in our family and in our community" - Dr. Sue Johnson, Hold Me Tight, p. 259 This has got me thinking about my great grandparents on my mom's dad's side. Mennonite farmers. Small town...
Read more“Books and cleverness! There are more important things! — Friendship and bravery!” – Hermione Granger
Hermione Granger and Emotional Intelligence
What helps kids grow to be Emotionally Intelligent young adults? How can we help the Ron Weasley’s of the world become emotional-intelligence superstars like Hermione Granger?
Sexual Compatibility: Your “Let’s Get It On” Could Be A Real Turn Off
Sexual compatibility can be greatly improved within most loving relationships.
Read moreTherapy can help people drive their own bus after feeling stranded in the dark.
How Therapy Helps 2: Drive Your Own Bus Where You Want To Go
Therapy helps when we need someone to join us on our path with clarity, acceptance, and empowerment.
Read moreIf you’re standing at the bottom of a hill with friends, it will appear less steep and easier to climb than if you are alone.
– Lisa Feldman Barrett, Phd
How Therapy Helps 1: Perspective and Clarity
Therapy gives us a chance to climb our obstacles with compassionate, curious, and courageous people. It gives us strength and perspective at times when we feel lost in the clouds.
Read moreIf you don’t change then the rains soon come
– Lauren Hill
How To Un-Love Stuff
On how my wife’s financial clarity helped me build a new perspective on money and freedom. Plus: the scientific answer to why new stuff doesn’t make us happier for long. A primer on how to emotionally unhook from belongings you love while connecting to loved ones.